Sharing Your Feelings With your Dom is also a significant sign of achieving personal growth is being able to communicate your feelings to others effectively. (You should never be punished by your Dom for sharing and expressing your feelings. If this is happening this is abuse. You should consider ending the relationship and dynamic.)
However, the ability to genuinely share your feelings takes practice and confidence. Fortunately, there are specific actions you can take to help you develop this ability.
If you apply these strategies, you'll be telling others how you feel with assertiveness and extraordinary social graces:
1.) Recognize what you're feeling and put a label on it. Examining your own set of emotions is much different than noticing how others react. Avoid focusing on how you think your Dom is feeling, at least initially in a specific situation. Stay inside yourself to determine how you feel.
Getting in touch with your feelings is a significant first step toward expressing yourself to your Dom. When labeling your emotions, consider the full range of human feelings.
Although you may tend to think of more prominent feelings such as happiness, sadness, or anger, these feelings are gradients. Think of contentment, disappointment, melancholy, irritation, and other emotions to find just the correct label for your feelings.
Once you've labeled how you feel, you're better prepared to share your feelings with your Dom.
2.) Ask yourself if the time, place, and situation are appropriate to sharing feelings. If you want your Dom to hear you, they must focus on your words. To be heard, it helps to be reasonable about these three elements: time, place, and situation.
Telling your Dom when he is busy at work that you're upset for him not showing up for plans you had earlier might reflect an ill-timed effort. On the other hand, calling your Dom when they are off work and sharing your emotions to focus on you and the conversation shows a better choice of time, place, and situation.
When these three aspects are correct, go ahead and share how you feel.
3. Remind yourself you have a right to feel how you feel. As a human being, you're entitled to feel however you feel. Your feelings are just as relevant as the next person's emotions. And you don't have to explain why you feel a certain way.
In essence, you feel what you feel because you feel it. No other reasoning is necessary.
4. Show confidence during your exchange. Avoid being afraid to say how you feel. If you state your feelings confidently, others will listen and respect you. But if you feel unworthy of someone's time, your self-doubt will reveal itself in the discussion.
Take pride in the fact you're connected with your mind and emotions and that you're not too afraid, ashamed, or embarrassed to share it.
5. Use respectful voice tones. Even though you sometimes might experience intense feelings, take special care in moderating your voice tones while expressing emotions. Using a calm voice tone makes it easier for your Dom to hear what you're saying.
Loud or disrespectful tones will divert them from what you're genuinely trying to communicate. Your Dom will most likely focus on your demeanor instead.
6. Be appreciative. Finally, in your efforts to express yourself, show gratitude for your Dom's time and patience in hearing you. After all, people have a choice as to whether they communicate with you. A word of thanks to them for taking the time helps to build strong relationships. Saying, "Thanks for listening," shows you appreciate their time.
Sharing your feelings with your Dom takes time, effort, and tact.
However, as you apply these strategies, you'll improve in your quest to reveal your feelings to them. Once you become skilled at expressing yourself, you'll be well on the road to living the life you desire.